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If becoming a mom meant or is meaning some surprising things for you as a woman, and you'd like a little more support, we've got a place for you. Totum, which means "whole" in Latin, is devoted to acknowledging the woman as she enters motherhood.

 
 

TOTUM TREATS

Our cookies are nutritious and tasty, helping mothers increase their milk supply, energy and sense of satisfaction, and providing the nutrients and support a mother needs during a magical but trying time.

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I’m not myself right now. And then I read this. ・・・ Sleep Recovery - Part 1 @goop The importance of sleep for good health can not be underestimated, especially for postnatal recovery. The irony of this situation is not lost on anyone - that, at a time when we have the highest need for sleep, we are also taking care of others who are waking in the night and sometimes taking aaaaaaaages to get back to sleep. Many mothers come to me with a feeling of hopelessness and overwhelm, and sometimes even panicked and fearful, that the nights of good sleep are gone forever. And once the second (third, fourth...) babies come along, a good night's sleep can seem like a complete fantasy. It is enough to make someone feel like they are going crazy, that is certain. A feeling of craziness that includes poor concentration, memory loss, anxiety and depressive thoughts, and the inability to handle any kind of stress. I really feel for mothers in this situation, trying to discipline their kids, make sound decisions for their family's wellbeing, and trying to keep up with friends, keep a family running, let alone keep a job or a career. Furthermore, poor sleep will slow down the recovery of the hormone system after birth, that is so very vital to being well. For all despairing mothers, I believe that it IS possible to regain your sleep, but like many things it's a process that does requires a commitment is not a quick fix situation. First, there needs to be acknowledgement that sleep is a priority, and the realization that you cannot keep going on months or years of broken sleep. For many women who are used to feeling invincible, this can be big news and a massive reprogramming, but hopefully this will also open doors into what my friends who teach about self-care would call, "the new paradigm of femininty" or surrendering towards being human and finding great wisdom and power in this terrain. And then - Making sleep a priority is not as easy in a world, where there are so many things needing to be prioritized. As long as a mother continues to breastfeed overnight or is waking to take care of her children in the night, it is important that she goes to bed as early as she can.
Family 🚲 ride realness. It is blazes hot outside, and this brave little girl made it 2 miles on her bike, crying some at the end but choosing to be brave and keep going. I kept thinking that this is life: challenging, but when we feel the feelings, express them, and keep going: we grow. #wheninstagramisreallife #bravegirl #brava #familybikeride #100
So well stated by our #mumcrush Joy Felihy. What was the biggest surprise when you became a mom?
“As they grow, I’m learning that it isn’t just about the one thousand things we do every day to take care of them, it’s about being present. It’s about listening and being their constant source of love and support.” — Joy Fehily, our massive #mumcrush in collab with @hellomytribe . I met Joy when I was working for @omazeworld and found her to be one of the most open, true and kind women I’d ever met. And that’s not something I’ve come to expect among people in her line of work (sorry, publicists!!). On the blog today, she shares so openly about her ups and downs, in a way that is completely present and is sure to make every mama reading it say “me, too.” Take a read. We love you, Joy!
Current state of work/life balance. We moved cross country. Are staying in a temporary but cozy place until we get into our home. We just dug out of a flood in our temporary home about a week ago. I’m running our business from here with core team in LA. Our two eldest are heading into new schools. Beau is being his cute baby self, nursing and sleeping with mommy’s help. We just said goodbye to our nanny of 6 years yesterday. Today is day one of making this all work without help except for husband who starts at his new post next week. I am basically teetering on the edge of sanity but trying to stay focused on what matters most: helping the kids #transition into their new environment with a sense of security. We’ve done some camps to help them make buddies, have visited their new schools, and have given them space to talk about their feelings — up or down — without pretending that we all have to feel ok or happy all of the time. It’s been a real adjustment but I feel completely confident that this is right for our #family, slowing down the daily grind and being closer to my family. Any of you have any tips on how to keep sane during a huge #move with kids? I’ll take alllllll the tips! #wheninstagramisalsoreallife #normalizebreastfeeding #yesthatisaleakmark #hot🔥
“but right now, my little FUPA and I feel like we are meant to be.” I mean if that’s good enough for BEYONCÉ ・・・ “After the birth of my first child, I believed in the things society said about how my body should look. I put pressure on myself to lose all the baby weight in three months, and scheduled a small tour to assure I would do it. Looking back, that was crazy. I was still breastfeeding when I performed the Revel shows in Atlantic City in 2012. After the twins, I approached things very differently. I was 218 pounds the day I gave birth to Rumi and Sir. I was swollen from toxemia and had been on bed rest for over a month. My health and my babies’ health were in danger, so I had an emergency C-section. We spent many weeks in the NICU. My husband was a soldier and such a strong support system for me. I am proud to have been a witness to his strength and evolution as a man, a best friend, and a father. I was in survival mode and did not grasp it all until months later. Today I have a connection to any parent who has been through such an experience. After the C-section, my core felt different. It had been through major surgery. Some of your organs are shifted temporarily, and in rare cases, removed temporarily during delivery. I am not sure everyone understands that. I needed time to heal, to recover. During my recovery, I gave myself self-love and self-care, and I embraced being curvier. I accepted what my body wanted to be. After six months, I started preparing for Coachella. I became vegan temporarily, gave up coffee, alcohol, and all fruit drinks. But I was patient with myself and enjoyed my fuller curves. My kids and husband did, too. I think it’s important for women and men to see and appreciate the beauty in their natural bodies. To this day my arms, shoulders, breasts, and thighs are fuller. I have a little mommy pouch, and I’m in no rush to get rid of it. I think it’s real. Whenever I’m ready to get a six-pack, I will go into beast zone and work my ass off until I have it. But right now, my little FUPA and I feel like we are meant to be.” -Beyonce (as told to @clovito) in the September 2018 issue of @voguemagazine 📷: @tylersphot
Look out, Saturday. Here I come! Quick note: I find age 3 a lot harder than 2. Anyone else? #threenager #escuincla #tantrums #momsohard